When God created human beings, He created many emotions and desires
within him, which
we call human instincts. These include positive qualities such as recognizing
truth and expressing
it, love and compassion, pure physiological desires such as being thirsty
, hungry and in need of sex.
Then there are some negative qualities such as hate and anger, with resultant violence and dejection.
The angels who were the witnesses to Adam's creation knew about some of
the negative qualities
of man and questioned the creation of this new being who was to create "'mischief on earth." (Quran
2:30)
However, at the same time, the Creator also instilled some protective mechanisms for fighting these
negative instincts.
"Man was created weak," says the Quran. During the moment of weakness, we succumb
to the designs of our enemy, that is, the devil, who "will attack us from
front, from behind, from the
side," in order to divert us from God consciousness and return to our true animistic nature. Thus
anger by itself is not unnatural; it is the expression of anger which if
done wrongfully, can lead to
problems. The difference between the wild beasts and wild humans is the
difference of free will.
When a lion or a wolf is angry, he does not think. When a man becomes angry as a result of
provocation, he has a choice to control his anger or to respond to it as
he has been taught by the
teachings of prophets and saints, or forget all that and become a wild animal. Thus anger takes place
when we are not in control of ourselves, but the devil is controlling us.
Anger is a de stabilizing thought. It is the most dividing emotion between friends; it takes
away judgment, leads to depression, madness and wrong actions that we would repent later on when
we are not angry. But why do we get angry to begin with? It is either an unexpected provocation
or unexpected situation which leads to frustration and an angry response.
During anger, one can
physically or verbally abuse a person that he or she loves, hurt another
living being like an animal,
or during the dejection phase of anger, one can even hurt him- or herself
and even commit suicide.
When anger is directed toward a group of people, then it can manifest in
terrorism, whether against
people of other faiths or nations, or against even one's own government as is seen in the case of the
Oklahoma City bombing. However, all anger is not of satanic origin. How
can we blame Satan for
a child who is angry because he does not get his toy or when he is hungry ?
The point I am making is that the natural fulfillment of normal desires, whether in terms of
food or sex, is a prerequisite for prevention of anger. There are many chemicals and hormones which
affect our moods and behavior. It is well known that hypoglycemia and hyperthyroidism precipitate
irritability and anger. We must keep our hormones in balance in addition to facilitate our spiritual
well-being.
Prophet Mohammed (Pbuh), who was sent to mankind to teach them good
moral conduct,
learned to control his anger toward the Unbelievers and teach them appropriate expressions. He
constantly spoke against being angry. One companion asked him, Give me some short advice by
virtue of which I hope for good in the life hereafter, and he said, "Don't be angry." Another person
asked, what will save me from the wrath of God, and he said, "Do not express your anger." A third
person asked three times, 0 Prophet of God, give me an order to do a short good deed, and he said,
"Don't be angry." Once he asked a question of his companion, "Who among
you do you consider
a strong man?" They said, the one who can defeat so-and-so wrestler in a
fight, and he said, that is
not so. The one who is strong is the one who can control himself at the
time of anger. He also said
that anger is like fire, which destroys you from within, and it can also
lead you to the fire of hell by
your own expressions of anger unjustly.
Being angry is like being drunk. In both cases, we do not know what
we are doing, hurting
ourselves or someone else, and afterwards when the intoxication is over,
we repent. Caliph Omar
used to say, the one with all its goodn anger gets salvation. Shiekh Hassan Basri said that one of the
signs of the Believers is that his anger will not prevail over him.
Anger should be distinguished between the natural response to wrongdoing and disbelief.
A person who has no feelings about oppression, wrongdoing and disbelief is, in fact, an impotent
person emotionally. It has been said, "Evil flourishes when a few good people do not do anything
to oppose it." Thus response to injustice and operation in a civilized way is the appropriate
expression of anger. Being neutral to injustice is equal to contributing to injustice. Sometimes taking
arms in order to fight the oppression and injustice, in defense or in off is the basis of "the just
war." However, this "just war" is not justified on a personal level.
Caliph Ali was once fighting in a war imposed on Muslims, and the chief of the Unbelievers
confronted him. During the fight, the Ali was able to overcome him, who fell down on the ground
and Ali was about to kill him. This person, knowing his fate now, had no choice so he spit on the
face of Ali. Ali immediately got up and left him alone. The man came running to him and asked,
"You had a chance to kill me since I was defeated; how come you didn't use your sword?" Ali said,
"I have no personal animosity toward you. I was fighting you because of
your disbelief, on behalf
of God. If I had killed you after you spat on my face, then it would have become my personal revenge
which I do not wish to take." That Unbeliever chief became a Muslim immediately.
When Prophet Mohammed (Pbuh) became angry at someone else's wrong actions or
disbeliefs, he never expressed it with his hand or tongue. His companions knew that he was angry
by looking at his face, which would be red and with some sweat on his forehead, and he would keep
quiet for a moment, trying to control himself.
What happens to us physiologically when we are angry? Our heart rate and blood pressure
go up; this is a direct effect of excessive adrenalin in our system. Our physical strength increases
although spiritual strength decreases. Our intellect or power to reason
goes away, and things we
would not justify in a normal state become acceptable. The organs of our body which are otherwise
under our control, become out of control. Thus, our tongues become abusive, and we would say
words which would hurt someone else. Our hands are out of control, and we will hit someone or
sometimes ourselves. Our feet are out of control, and we might kick some one whether a human,
an animal or sometimes a broken machine.
How do we control anger? Contrary to other teaching, I believe that to root out anger is
impossible and unnatural, and may even be harmful. A person who does not control or redirect the
expression of anger may have built up anger within himself, which may hurt him physically. Apart
from being depressed and having a feeling of dejection, during the phase of unexpressed anger, his
constant, rapid heart rate and high blood pressure may harm his heart and even lead to a heart attack
over the long run. Apart from being violent, during the phase of anger since his mind does not work,
he may make a wrong decision about his job or personal relationship which will affect his future.
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